Tuesday, 11 May 2010

House maids??

Is it becoming compulsory to have a house maid in the Middle East, specifically in the Gulf region? If you don’t have one, you’ll be considered a superwoman who deserves whatever stress & troubles she is getting.
I have been thinking about it for a long long time, don’t get me wrong. I don’t blame women in our society for not being able to live without a house maid, or two , or even three at one time. It is a hectic society, social obligations and activities are too much to handle. We live in a very generous society with lots of social activities going on, we receive visitors to our houses all the time, and you are expected to make them feel they are in a five star hotel.
You’re obliged to visit your relatives continuously, for no reason, or for occasions such as weddings, funerals, child birth etc. So we are busy people you know..
Women are working in different fields such as men, and not much facility are given to mothers such as part-time jobs or breast-feeding hours. Moreover, we lack good nurseries and child care services that you can put your kids in whenever you are busy.
So what will be the solution for most women? Get a housemaid from one of the less developed countries such as Seri Lanka, India, Indonesia, Ethiopia and let her do all the cleaning, cooking, baby-sitting, even shopping???? Does it really make sense??? It happens, but it doesn’t make sense to me?? A person I know nothing about, who speaks different language with different religion, who might have problems I don’t know about, I pay her very low salary, and she’d replace me?
For the time being, I am concerned about so many things, I am studying, trying to find a solution with my kids but not interested on letting a person I don’t know to take care of my lil ones.Oh, and I love my home privacy, besides I love being able to dress the way I like at home...
I am writing this while (for the first time in my life) a part time lady is cleaning one of my bathrooms,I feel awkward on her presence between my family. Will it work for me,, or my mom & all family will insist that I should get a housemaid. What do you think??


Rene´s Bare Essentials said...

salaam alaikum,

I have no problem hiring help, however I don't agree with live-in maids who do all the cleaning, cooking and child rearing. A Muslim woman has obligations and duties that need to be fulfilled just like Muslim men have. If taking care of her children is compromised by working then she needs to spend less time working and more time with her kids since that is her responsibility. Just like the mans responsibility is to provide for the family financially. Now a days both the wife and the husband work and the children suffer because of this.
As Muslims, if we do hire help we should not pay them adequate wages, not be stingy and cheap and treat our animals better than them. A lot of women in the middle east who have maids spend their days shopping, socializing which is wrong. I can understand how difficult it is to clean, cook and raise children which is why I agree that if one can hire extra help they should. However it only takes a few hours a few days a week to clean ones house and cooking doesn't take more than a few hours, therefore there is no reason to make ones hired help work 15 plus hours a day!!!! Muslims are treating their hired help like second class citizens and this is wrong. With that said, for those Muslims who have hired help, treat them with respect, be kind to them, give them their due breaks (instead of making them work 15 hours straight), treat them how you would like to be treated, offer them beverages and food!

MoOn SmiLe said...

Rene, Thanks sister for the enlightment,what you said is so crucial and we need it all to take into consideration.
I do hear of ill-treatment of house helpers,and actually the lady who came to help me yesterday was complaining about being treated very badly previously.
We should fear Allah on treating this poor people who left their country & family in order to help support them.
U r so right,many women in ME do rely totally on their housemaids,I never agreed on that.Kids have always been my responsibily & actually I am very bad on trusting anyone to take care of them except my parents & in-laws LOL...:)
These ladies are there to help,& not to take over..:)...

thanks sister, Jazaki Allah aljana:)

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